Desiderata

Highschool Love: Fortune or Delusion?

By: Michelle Dawn Ramos

L-O-V-E. When does it all start?

When people first experience falling in love, it often starts as attraction. Sexual feelings can also be a part of this attraction. People at this stage might daydream about a crush or a new “BF” or “GF”. They may doodle the person’s name or think of their special someone while a particular song is playing. It sure feels like love. But it’s not love yet. It hasn’t has the time to grow into emotional closeness that’s needed for love.

Our ability to feel romantic love develops during adolescence. Teens all over the world notice passionate feelings of attraction. At this stage, we long for that intense new feeling of love, different from the love that we give or given by our parents, siblings, etc. Possessing passionate feelings of attraction are a natural part of growing up. However, you shouldn’t get involved too soon for a lot of things can not determine fantasy from reality. They are not in love with the person but only with the thought of being in love.

As students longing for good marks and achievements, high school relationships may come in the way. Most teens are too fickle to commit. Books in hand, any student is able to walk into his high school and see the walls lined with couples engaged in public displays of affection. Socially, teens involved in these relationships are pressured with what the other half would think when mingling with the opposite sex. These teens may have problems in coping up with their studies which, in fact, is the main purpose why one goes to high school. Relationships beginning in high school rarely last and most of the time, those who get caught up in it come out from it broken-hearted, neglected or deserted. If it all ends like this, what’s the point of getting into it when you know it wasn’t going to last in the first place? And why do young people cheat themselves into believing that in order for their high school life to be inspiring or exciting or memorable or even complete, they have to have a boyfriend or girlfriend?

True, some couples who fall in love in high school develop committed relationships that last. Many relationships don’t last, though. It’s really just best and practical if you just stay friends with someone until you are old enough to carry out courtship with marriage in mind.

One really needs to realize how young they are. One should also be focusing on college and what will be happening in his or her life after high school. Getting married and having kids are not far-fetched ideas since you have been intimate in the opposite sex. If these happen, as a child yourself, you would end up ruining what could be a successful future. Think about this: being fast-paced is not completely unhealthy but all important things in life should better be taken slowly, one at a time. Know your priorities and stick to what you know is best for you. Time is the only thing capable of understanding how valuable love is.